In emotionally focused couple therapy (EFT), the blamer‐softening event helps individuals express and respond to partners’ unmet attachment needs. This study examined the impact of this event in relation to attachment at intake and changes in marital satisfaction from pre‐ to posttherapy. Thirty‐two couples were provided an average of 21 sessions of EFT. Hierarchical linear modeling revealed that the occurrence of a softening event significantly predicted increased marital satisfaction. Furthermore, the occurrence of a softening event significantly moderated the relationship between attachment avoidance at intake and change in marital satisfaction from pre‐ to posttherapy. For couples who had a softening event, partners with higher levels of attachment avoidance were less likely to have positive changes in marital satisfaction.