AbstractTiffany was seventeen when injury to her brain stem put her in the intensive care unit on life‐sustaining treatment and in a permanently locked‐in state—fully conscious but able to control no bodily movements other than her eye movements. As a clinical ethicist at the hospital, I was consulted by her neurologist, who had established a blink‐once‐for‐yes, twice‐for‐no system of communication so that Tiffany could respond to questions. Her mother wanted Tiffany to continue receiving treatment that could prolong her life for years, potentially decades. In a meeting with the neurologist and family, I felt like suggesting what nobody seemed willing to suggest: that we should ask Tiffany what she wants.