This pictorial shows the process of involving a lady with advanced dementia and her husband, her main carer, in a design project, and discusses its implications, namely the need of an openand flexible approach to participatory design and the difficulties ofinterpreting and evaluating non-verbal responses. This work is part of a practice-based doctoral research that explores how design can enable people with dementia and their close social circle to develop personalised strategies communication, with a special focus on leisure and entertainment.