Appropriate reference genes must be selected for accurate qRT-PCR data to conduct a thorough gene expression analysis in the sorghum aphid (Melanaphis sacchari, Hemiptera, Aphididae). This approach will establish a foundation for gene expression analysis and determines the efficacy of RNA interference in the sorghum aphid. Nine potential reference genes, including Actin, 18S, GAPDH, RPL7, EF-1α, EF-1β, 28S, HSP70, and TATA, were assessed under various experimental conditions to gauge their suitability based on qRT-PCR Ct values. The stability of these candidate reference genes in diverse experimental setups was analyzed employing several techniques, including the ΔCt comparative method, geNorm, Normfinder, BestKeeper, and RefFinder. The findings revealed that the quantity of ideal reference genes ascertained by the geNorm method for diverse experimental conditions remained consistent. For the developmental stages of the sorghum aphid, RPL7 and 18S proved to be the most dependable reference genes, whereas GAPDH and EF-1β were recommended as the most stable reference genes for different tissues. In experiments involving wing dimorphism, EF-1α and GAPDH were identified as the optimal reference gene pair. Under varying temperatures, EF-1α and EF-1β were found to be the most dependable gene pair. For studies focusing on insecticide susceptibility, 18S and TATA emerged as the most stable candidate reference genes. Across all experimental conditions, EF-1α and EF-1β was the optimal combination of reference genes in the sorghum aphid. This research has pinpointed stable reference genes that can be utilized across various treatments, thereby enhancing gene expression studies and functional genomics research on the sorghum aphid.